Control freaks

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Do you yourself know when you are to be submissive to others and when you are to lead? How do you know this? Can you tell the difference between the voice of God and that of the devil now too? Most People still cannot.. sad.
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There is a very dangerous person that  we should be aware of, and even not associate with,   one who is also mainly  the devil’s follower, one  that is the self centered, sarcastic,  withdrawn silhouette control freak.  .
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  Like the Apostle Judas, and they tend to do they dirty  work in the background, not transparently to all, do have a hidden bad agenda .The Last Supper specifically portrays the reaction given by each apostle when Judas is wearing green and blue and is in shadow,  looking rather withdrawn . An Apostate. Apostasy in  Christianity refers to the rejection of Christianity by someone who formerly was a Christian.;The term apostasy comes from the Greek word apostasia (“ἀποστασία”) meaning defection, departure, revolt or rebellion. It has been described as “a willful falling away from, or rebellion against Jesus Christ,  Christianity. Apostasy is the rejection of the teachings of Jesus Christ by one who has been a Christian… describing those who have  voluntarily and consciously abandoned next their  original faith in the God of  the covenant, who manifests himself most completely in Jesus Christ. “Apostasy is the antonym of conversion; it is deconversion.”
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And it seems 50 percent of once loudly professing Christians will next become Apostates, sell Jesus cause they  falsely  did not get what they wanted, even wealth,  power, fame, recognition, more sex…  http://kambulow.blogspot.ca/2013/06/are-you-not-falsely-angry.html
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– With·drawn   v. Past participle of withdraw. adj. 1. Not readily approached; remote. 2. a. Not friendly or sociable; aloof. b. Emotionally .
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– Control freak It is a serious personality disorder and is a derogatory term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is to be done. A draining person.  People who feel out of control . Manipulators  The control freaks are people who are falsely terrified of any failure. Perfectionists. They can not trust that anyone to do a better job than they will. a false belief that  that if they  can change another person’s undesirable behavior, then you both will be happier or more fulfilled.  The Person  who if not in control of many aspects even in other’s lives will go ballistic. This ensues telling, demanding,and a control freak likes to claim the successes of others as their own. These people obsessively try to dictate how you’re supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything; disagree at your peril. Control freaks rarely know that they are one. They believe that they are helping people with their “constructive criticism” or taking over a project because “no one else will do it right.” They spout, dictate unsolicited advice and use anger often to put you in your place. You cannot tell them what to do.; .Express to them your right to be heard, and also to do things your way too.;
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Some clear signs of the Control freaks  for your -diagnosing pleasure.

1 They try to “help them” change  by pointing it out, usually over and over.

2 They try  micromanage others to make them fit their often unrealistic expectations. They can’t accept others  imperfection they  don’t think anyone else should either.

3 They continually  judge others’ behavior as right or wrong and without love, passive-aggressively withhold attention, contact  until they fall in line with their demands,  expectations. Sitting in silent judgment  an  other form of control.

4 They offer “constructive criticism” as a veiled attempt to advance their own agenda.

5   Instead of just being themselves , they attempt to deceive others by projection  of their false   impression of   them selves

6 Fear mongers, threateners   and manipulators.

7 Know it all.

8 They  intervene on behalf of others by trying to explain or dismiss their negative behaviors to others.

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“Arguing with the control freak seldom works. Why? Because they are an expert at justifying to themselves and everyone else why they are right. They are world authorities in being “right”. They have spent whole lifetimes practicing “being right”. So trying to out-argue them can be nigh on impossible.”
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Simply  walk away – let them try rather to control others
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Many even professing Christian persons see themselves as teachers, facilitators, coordinators, leaders, when in fact they are still just dictators, bullies, some even immoral agressive jungle fighters, control freaks who need to repent.. 
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Not surprisingly many prideful people try to take the place of God in my life too, AND these imposters claim even that they have been chosen, designated by God to command over me, THAT  I am required into forced submission to their whims, desires , commands. But funny God now himself has not revealed those facts as well to me BUT  only to them. I put my trust in God and not in man.. Me I am still always rightfully actively resistant to all of the abusers, bullies, liars, even in the Church, GOVERNMENTS, CORPORATIONS, POLICE and their oppressions. etc., still too, for all it takes for evil to prosper is for good people to do nothing about it. So should we all!
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AND WHEN YOU DO NOT DO WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO DO THESE SAME RATHER LITTLE BAD CHILDREN INSULT YOU, SLANDER YOU, DIVORCE YOU, OSTRACIZE YOU, BAD MOUTH YOU.
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If you are a   Control freak you are not only still an unrealistic, immature, immoral person  but you  may have a serious personality disorder. 
 
You likley are a menace, plus a real danger to yourself and to others, for you are an abuser, a human rights violator too.
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I can readily recognize bad  control freaks on the net cause they want to give me advice how to write my post, what to write, in fact they want to rather  write it for me.. rather fools is what they really are.. I freely can speak for myself, write for myself now too. You readily find these freaks  also in churches, homes, etc., demonic enslavers is what they rather are too  now. Not much point in being nice to them for often they are too dumb to understand who they really are too often too… and they rarely change.
Having clearly now an exaggerated emphasis of your own self importance, being tottally in  control is part of a cluster of behaviors that can be labeled as compulsive and generally characterized by perfectionism, orderliness, workaholic tendencies, an inability to make commitments or to trust others and a real cover-up for your fear of having your own flaws exposed. You are exposed now still too.. 
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All  these type of Persons who  believe they can protect themselves by staying in control of every aspect of their lives, or of others, including their relationships are idiots, fools, grossly in error, in need of professional help, good pastoral counseling.
I rightfully  believe in the right of free speech, mine, yours, everyone else’s and not solely yours.
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Mostly all of you have had to contend with control freaks and they are found everywhere, in Corporations, at  home, in churches too..
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These are those people who insist on having their way in all interactions with you. They wish to set the agenda and decide what it is you will do and when you will do it. You know who they are – they have a driving need to run the show and call the shots. Lurking within the fabric of the conversation is the clear threat that if you do not accede to their needs and demands, they will be unhappy.. and they will delete your post…
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While in reality God has made us all equal, and GAVE US ALL MOUTHS WE CAN SPEAK WITH, EARS TO LISTEN, it seems some people, in churches, on the net, elsewhere, they  still wrongfully do think they are better than others, or want to dominate others, do try to give orders to others, do try to make rules for others  that they too often themselves do not follow too, they are in fact still bullies..  and now why is that? and who do they think they are now that they are so special? Mere fools. They mostly have a hidden agenda, they are falsely seeking fame, power, control, a position of prestige, for they are immoral slave drivers trying to walk on the back of others.
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I have already mentioned it to you rightfully and often too  before that I often get phonecall,s  letters from some persons telling me what I can and cannot write on their sites, rather them wanting to write all of my posts too it seems.
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So many disturbed persons are now disturbed by the contents of my posts, so these  ostriches try to find a false excuse not to deal with it, and try to instead falsely delete it. The control freaks  emotional stakes includes their own identity and sense of well-being. Being in control gives them the temporary illusion and sense of calmness, a false feeling of superiority. and what fools they are when in reality they are so far from it now too.
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Control freaks or Bullies, abusers, wrongfully do cause  others stress so they can maintain a false sense of order.
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These people themselves firstly are still riddled mostly with anxiety, fear, insecurity, and anger. They’re very critical of themselves their lover and their friends, but underneath all that still too that supposedly perfect outfit and great body is a mountain of real unhappiness, unresolved guilt, disturbed person who   need professional help. Help them to get it.. inform their superiors.
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Certainly, it’s natural to want to be in control of your life. But when you have to be in control of the people around you as well, well you have gone crazy, become a fool, a demonic controlled person who can’t rest until you get your way and you are headed down a very bumpy ride, it is easier to try to control yourself, and impossible to control all the others.(1 Cor 9:27 KJV)  But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
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Beware always of men and women, bullies, tormentors, control freaks,  persons, civil and public servants,  politicians, pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to enslave you, oppress you, exploit you even while they claim they are proclaiming the truth, democracy, trying to help you, etc.,
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Is 51:23 ..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass overIs 55:7 Let the wicked forsake his way and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord, and He will have love, pity, {and} mercy for him, and to our God, for He will multiply to him His abundant pardon. 8 For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, says the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.
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Is 56:10 watchmen are blind, they are all without knowledge; they are all dumb dogs, they cannot bark; dreaming, lying down, they love to slumber.
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The need to control is almost always fueled by anxiety – though control freaks seldom recognize their fears. At work, they may worry about failure. In relationships, they may worry about not having their needs met. To keep this anxiety from overwhelming them, they try to control the people or things around them. They have a hard time with negotiation and compromise and they can’t stand imperfection. Needless to say, they are difficult to live with, work with and/or socialize with.
 
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   “Those who demand the most often give the least.”  Ask them to send you something or do something for you. By asking something of them, you will be indicating that you are not intimidated or diminished by their behavior patterns. In order to not feel degraded, humiliated and have your sense of self and self worth assaulted, you need to avoid being bulldozed by a controlling lover, boss or friend. When you are caught up in a truly destructive/controlling attachment, the best response may still also still be to expose them and to call the police and also walk out.
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In generally in the more liberal freedom loving society of Canada both the wife and the children tend to have much more freedom, rights, make their own decisions,  over many other countries and as a result the culture shock is a very real problem for some new immigrant spouses where the husband was used to being obeyed, and being the sole head of the home  thus  it’s not altogether uncommon for some of the new immigrant  home situations to become  unacceptably violent.
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 IT IS NOW MORE  RARE BUT I DO ALSO NOW STILL GET BULLIED BY RELIGIOUS BULLIES,  ABUSERS TOO..   not just by the past bad cops
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The WRONGFULLY STILL Unrepentant  bully’s problem is that he or she is one of those bad persons  who only feels truly alive when voicing hostility and contempt for his “enemies.” Without that, he or she starts gasping for air. It’s his nature.. self-destructive” ..  clearly these immoral  Bully, Basher of others, Abusers of others has a disappointed, deflated ego, negative self worth,  most likely related to past unresolved guilt, as a result  of  that   the bully, he or she, tries falsely to   build  their ego up by bashing, hating others, by being an antagonists against  his proclaimed enemies, which too often also  is most people , for  he or she no longer trust anyone, and Abusers this is a common very typical approach, fact in the character build up of Bullies, Bashers, but their approach is futile, the subsequent feeling of self worth dissipates too quickly, are actually replaced by guilt,  and his ego, self worth likely needs to be recharged with new hate.. and is replaced with more and larger hatred of the others.  I have seen this type of wrong behavior not just in bad managers, bad politicians, bad persons, but  in alcoholics, and most often in Albertan rednecks ,but also  in religious   fundamentals evangelicals who promote hated towards Pentecostal Christians as well, and  now as well as the crooked pastor wrongfully  fighting for control over others. Public exposure and prosecution of these bad persons here too services everyone’s best interest.
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Here also is what I know for sure, the older the person is the more extreme, more severe, the more difficult the punishment has  to be on them to cause them to personally to change in their own  negative ways, for they are too set in them now too.
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69 thoughts on “Control freaks”

  1. It is sadly not just bad Christian and Missionary Alliance Church or Corporation Pastors, the C&MA, who falsely do try to get medical doctors to put any critics, opponents of their into a mental hospital ward, but it is also the very bad nurses too, control freaks or rather witches, who try to put even mother in laws, or father in laws now there as well..

    see also
    https://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/control-freaks/
    http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/17/the-too-common-abusive-silent-treatment/
    http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/08/12/more-about-control-freaks/
    http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/verbal-abuse-is-always-unacceptable-too/
    http://thenonconformer.blogspot.com/2008/12/coping-with-bad.html

    It has always been shocking to me when someone had personally said to me the pastor has abused me.. he was unkind, unloving, he even lied.. for that is the last place I have expected to find an abusive persons, a pastor of a Church.

    I was really surprised that most evangelical pastors are control freaks too.. who even meddle into homes now too.. other person’s lives..

    THE MAN KING OF THE HOUSE, THE WOMAN HIS DUTIFUL SUBJECT. The man is the king of the household, and the wife is only the prime minister. There is no confusion or overlapping of authority. The will of the husband is law. He has the only place of honor . The arrangements of the house, the company entertained, and the service employed, all have respect to his wishes and to his convenience. The wife conducts the affairs of state for the king. She has her household and, more than her personal allowance, and she renders a strict account of stewardship. The wife’s personal expenditures are less, much less than the husband’s. The will of the husband is the undisputed law; as to the wife her person, her property, her children under his sole control even to the present time are the rights secured to the husband under present English law. Like it or not but these laws were based on the Bible, which states (Eph 5:23 KJV) ” For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body”

    and most Evangelical pastors DO need to recognize, preach AND PRACTICE this still too.

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