Teens wounded in brawl Toronto & GTA News

 
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What started as reports of an afternoon baseball bat brawl between two groups of teens ended with two boys in hospital — one shot, the other stabbed — yesterday afternoon.  A fight involving eight to 15 teens broke out near George S. Henry Academy on Graydon Hall Dr., near Don Mills and York Mills Rds., at about 3:30 p.m., Toronto Police Const. Tony Vella said.  During the brawl, one teen was stabbed in the back and another was shot in the back.  The injured teens, believed to be about 16, were from opposing sides, Vella said.  After the groups scattered, emergency crews found the stabbing victim nearby with a “minor” wound and the shooting victim on a park bench down the street, where he had collapsed with what was thought to be a life-threatening injury, Vella said.  He was rushed to hospital, where he was listed in “stable” condition last night, Vella said.  Though the incident happened a half hour after classes ended at the nearby high school, it was unknown whether the teens were students there.  “We have a responsibility to educate today’s teens that violence is not the answer,” Vella said. “It does not help the situation. It just fuels the situation.  “You have someone shot and stabbed, then that person just wants to get (revenge),” he said. “Eventually, someone is killed.”  Three separate scenes were taped off by police along Graydon Hall, which is dotted with five highrise apartment buildings.  “I’m used to it,” a 12-year-old girl said of violence in the area since her family moved onto the street five years ago. “I hate when this happens.”  “We are very afraid, very surprised,” said a Pakistani man who moved to the area five months ago.  “We thought this city was very peaceful,” his wife added.  “It’s been happening everywhere,” one woman said of the violence, with her one-year-old daughter in tow. “It is what it is … It is unfortunate.”  http://www.torontosun.com/news/torontoandgta/2009/11/12/11717641-sun.html

ETHNIC, RELIGIOUS GANG FIGHTS AFTER SCHOOL IS NOTHING NEW IN CANADA, I SAW THE SAME THING IN MONTREAL DURING MY PUBLIC SCHOOL DAYS TOO. But I do have to say parents and the recession, economy  firstly have set the tone, the environment for the fights. Both Working parents have no time to look after the kids, and both parents often fighting amongst each other over acquiring more money, paying the bills does not help much.. and it does affect the children’s school grades negatively now too.. but blaming the fights on the schools or the lack of policing is a false cop out.

 
 
 

Saskatchewan school locked down after firearm stolen from car outside building Wed Nov 11, 7:41 PM  CANDO, Sask. – Police are investigating the theft of a rifle from a veteran’s vehicle that resulted in a school lockdown in rural Saskatchewan.

 

 

do see also https://postedat.wordpress.com/2009/11/10/albertan-hate-crimes-awareness-day/

 

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Still looking for a Job? is it because..

Fire the bad employees… or retrain them? but still can the essential social skills be developed next on the job by the too often bad cops, bad professionals, bad politicians even? and where, how are they acquired, if your parents did not help you here firstly? 

or are even you still looking for a good Job? or even looking for a job still? is it really now cause you firstly still have no friends to help you get one, or  you have over estimated your technical- economy value in your greed to get rich quickly?

I am amazed how many one sided, lop sided views on employment , too many young persons today do have, especially even those  who do graduate from a technical college, University, etc.,  and they still do expect to get rich immediately, to shortly  have a good job, and they do rather too often get disappointed even because they now firstly have violated the unwritten laws of management, that your own inter personal skills, social skills now are as important as your technical skills.
 
And because you lack social skills, and do not have good friends, you really can even miss out on about 80 percent of the jobs today that are not advertised, but are known only by a word of mouth social network too..
 
That’s unfair that I am being penalized for not being mature enough, for even being a  young person now too.. for my even lacking social skills and social contacts skills you may reply.. Really?
 
But that is not how many employers see it, social values do count,  especially as to  your ability to get along with your superiors, and others often is now more important than the technical skills you do even bring to the job. As simple as that too.
 
Now before you get next do hot and puffy, mad and angry at someone, the whole employment system, first do still think about the personal, social effect it has on your ability to get a job, to keep it too, even on your promotion, as well as your salary now too.
 
  Wise people do!
 
 

Sarah Palin on

 Sarah Palin on Abortion 
Click here for 11 full quotes on Abortion OR other candidates on Abortion OR background on Abortion.

  • Rejected sympathy for Down’s Syndrome son, as gift from God. (Aug 2008)
  • Opposes embryonic stem cell research. (Aug 2008)
  • Every baby is created with a future and potential. (Aug 2008)
  • Safe Haven bill: allow surrendering newborns without penalty. (Feb 2008)
  • Adoption is best plan for permanency for foster care kids. (Oct 2007)
  • Pro-life. (Nov 2006)
  • Choose life, even if her own daughter were raped. (Nov 2006)
  • If Roe v. Wade got overturned, let people decide what’s next. (Oct 2006)
  • Opposes use of public funds for abortions. (Oct 2006)
  • Pro-contraception, pro-woman, pro-life. (Aug 2006)
  • Only exception for abortion is if mother’s life would end. (Jul 2006)
 Sarah Palin on Civil Rights 
Click here for 13 full quotes on Civil Rights OR other candidates on Civil Rights OR background on Civil Rights.

  • Vetoed bill denying benefits to gays, as unconstitutional. (Aug 2008)
  • ADA brings expanded freedom to Americans with disabilities. (Jul 2008)
  • Recognize Juneteenth to celebrate the end of slavery. (Jun 2008)
  • HIV/AIDS among Alaska Natives is public health crisis. (Mar 2008)
  • Recognize Martin Luther King holiday. (Jan 2008)
  • Comply with same-sex partner benefits despite disagreement. (Dec 2006)
  • Marriage only be between and man and a woman. (Nov 2006)
  • Value our cultural diversity. (Nov 2006)
  • Prefers term “anti-rural” to “anti-Native”. (Nov 2006)
  • Special legislative session on same-sex health benefits. (Nov 2006)
  • Ok to deny benefits to homosexual couples. (Aug 2006)
  • No spousal benefits for same-sex couples. (Jul 2006)
  • Top priorities include preserving definition of “marriage”. (Jul 2006)

 Sarah Palin on Drugs 
Click here for 6 full quotes on Drugs OR other candidates on Drugs OR background on Drugs.

  • Highway fatalities down because of strict drunk driving laws. (Aug 2008)
  • Maintain alcohol sale database; bar giving alcohol to minors. (Jun 2007)
  • Questions cruise ship gambling, under casino gambling ban. (Oct 2006)
  • Opposes legalizing marijuana, but meth is greater threat. (Aug 2006)
  • Smoked marijuana when it was legal under Alaska law. (Aug 2006)
  • Top priorities include gangs & drugs; they harm family life. (Jul 2006)

 Sarah Palin on Education 
Click here for 22 full quotes on Education OR other candidates on Education OR background on Education.

  • Teach creationism alongside evolution in schools. (Aug 2008)
  • Supports teaching intelligent design in public schools. (Aug 2008)
  • 294 Alaska public schools progressed under NCLB. (Aug 2008)
  • School debate should focus on accountability. (Jan 2008)
  • Committed to providing strong education, including morals. (Jan 2008)
  • Budget funds education, but will to work is also critical. (Jan 2008)
  • Court ruling against NEA: state adequately funds education. (Jun 2007)
  • Fully fund K-12 and support early funding of education. (Jan 2007)
  • Supports $20 million needs-based aid for U. Alaska. (Nov 2006)
  • Forward-fund K-12 schools to allow better planning. (Nov 2006)
  • Supports charter schools, home schools, & other alternatives. (Nov 2006)
  • Target early education programs to at-risk groups. (Nov 2006)
  • Alignment between parents, teachers, schools, & business. (Nov 2006)
  • Faith-based materials ok in homeschooling. (Nov 2006)
  • ABC method: back to basics, plus patriotism & ethics. (Nov 2006)
  • Supports parental choice for what is best for their children. (Nov 2006)
  • Don’t push school boards on creationism but allow discussion. (Oct 2006)
  • I believe we have a creator; and many theories of evolution. (Oct 2006)
  • Support charters & home schools; not private school vouchers. (Oct 2006)
  • Let parents opt out of schoolbooks they find offensive. (Jul 2006)
  • Parents know best, about school spending & school age. (Jul 2006)

 

 Sarah Palin on Crime 
Click here for 12 full quotes on Crime OR other candidates on Crime OR background on Crime.

  • Establish “FBI Day” to support fighting global crime. (Jun 2008)
  • Register sex offenders; & investigate internet sex crimes. (Jun 2008)
  • Victims’ rights are critical to “justice for all”. (Mar 2008)
  • We are tough on crime and beefing up law enforcement. (Jan 2008)
  • Collect DNA samples from felons. (Jun 2007)
  • Gang members on probation must wear electronic monitors. (Jun 2007)
  • Maximum sentence for first-degree murder by police. (Apr 2007)
  • If legislature passed death penalty law, I would sign it. (Nov 2006)
  • Strong public safety presence, via police, courts & prisons. (Nov 2006)
  • Death penalty for adults who murder children. (Oct 2006)
  • No special hate-crime laws; all heinous crime is hate-based. (Jul 2006)
  • No expansion of gambling in Alaska. (Jul 2006)

 Sarah Palin on Government Reform 
Click here for 13 full quotes on Government Reform OR other candidates on Government Reform OR background on Government Reform.

  • Shook up the good-ol’ boys network with major ethics reform. (Sep 2008)
  • Vetoed nearly half a billion dollars in wasteful spending. (Sep 2008)
  • McCain: She’s a soul-mate who implemented ethics reform. (Aug 2008)
  • Killed “bridge to nowhere” project as unneeded. (Aug 2008)
  • Supported infamous “Bridge to Nowhere”; now criticizes it. (Aug 2008)
  • Individuals make better decisions than government. (Aug 2008)
  • Fight “bridge to nowhere” and all earmarks. (Jul 2008)
  • VECO scandal & Stevens indictment shows need for GOP cleanup. (Jul 2008)
  • Comprehensive ethics reform: change politics as usual. (Jul 2007)
  • Presented comprehensive ethics bill in early 2007. (Mar 2007)
  • Sell previous governor’s jet on eBay–it’s impractical. (Dec 2006)
  • Attended numerous debates & did not avoid any unnecessarily. (Oct 2006)
  • Supports state funding for Gravina Island bridge. (Oct 2006)

http://www.ontheissues.org/sarah_Palin.htm

Barack Obama vs John McCain

 

gay sex, abortion, lying, drunkness behavior, taking drugs,
 
are all unacceptable for any professing, Christian, evangelical persons especially Barrack Obama now as well
http://anyonecare.wordpress.com/2008/10/15/john-mccain-sarah-palin-barack-obama-and-joe-biden/

 

 Barack Obama on Civil Rights 
Democratic nomine for President; Junior Senator (IL)
Click here for 54 full quotes by Barack Obama OR click here for Barack Obama on other issues.

  • Hate crimes related to the immigration issue is unacceptable. (Feb 2008)
  • People want to move beyond our divisions. (Jan 2008)
  • 2004 DNC speech merged “heritage” with “diversity”. (Dec 2007)
  • The politics of fear undermines basic civil liberties. (Oct 2007)
  • 1980s boss predicted Obama would be heir to MLK’s voice. (Aug 2007)
  • Racial equality good for America as a whole. (Jun 2007)
  • Put the Confederate flag in a museum, not the state house. (Apr 2007)
  • Muslim heritage gives Obama unique influence in Muslim world. (Oct 2006)
  • No black or white America–just United States of America. (Oct 2006)
  • Gays should not face discrimination but should not marry. (Oct 2004)
  • Forthright on racial issues and on his civil rights history. (Jul 2004)
  • Defend freedom and equality under law. (May 2004)
  • Politicians: don’t use religion to insulate from criticism. (Apr 2004)
  • Miscegenation a felony in 1960 when Obamas practiced it. (Aug 1996)
  • The civil rights movement was a success. (Aug 1996)
  • Apply affirmative action to poor white college applicants. (Apr 2008)
  • Fight job discrimination to give women equal footing at jobs. (Feb 2008)
  • Remove discriminatory barriers to the right to vote. (Feb 2008)
  • Benefited from affirmative action but overcame via merit. (Dec 2007)
  • Include class-based affirmative action with race-based. (Oct 2007)
  • Better enforce women’s pay equity via Equal Pay Act. (Aug 2007)
  • Blacks should infiltrate mainstream to affect change. (Aug 2007)
  • Commitment to diversity by CEOs is advisable. (Mar 2007)
  • African-Americans vote Democratic because of issue stances. (Jul 2004)
  • Supports affirmative action in colleges and government. (Jul 1998)

    Gay Rights

     

  • Opposes CA Prop. 8, one-man-one-woman marriage. (Jul 2008)
  • Being gay or lesbian is not a choice. (Nov 2007)
  • Decisions about marriage should be left to the states. (Oct 2007)
  • Homosexuality no more immoral than heterosexuality. (Oct 2007)
  • Ok to expose 6-year-olds to gay couples; they know already. (Sep 2007)
  • Has any marriage broken up because two gays hold hands? (Aug 2007)
  • We need strong civil unions, not just weak civil unions. (Aug 2007)
  • Legal rights for gays are conferred by state, not by church. (Aug 2007)
  • Disentangle gay rights from the word “marriage”. (Aug 2007)
  • Gay marriage is less important that equal gay rights. (Aug 2007)
  • Gay rights movement is somewhat like civil rights movement. (Aug 2007)
  • Let each denominations decide on recognizing gay marriage. (Jul 2007)
  • Pass ENDA and expand hate crime legislation. (Mar 2007)
  • Opposed 1996 Illinois DOMA bill. (Mar 2007)
  • Supports health benefits for gay civil partners. (Oct 2006)
  • Opposes gay marriage; supports civil union & gay equality. (Oct 2006)
  • Marriage not a human right; non-discrimination is. (Oct 2004)
  • Include sexual orientation in anti-discrimination laws. (Jul 1998)

 

 John McCain on Civil Rights 
Republican nominee for President; Senior Senator (AZ)
Click here for 40 full quotes by John McCain OR click here for 3 older headlines OR click here for John McCain on other issues.

  • Supports CA Prop. 8: one-man-one-woman marriage. (Jul 2008)
  • Voted against MLK holiday in 1983; now calls that a mistake. (Apr 2008)
  • Don’t ask, don’t tell is working; don’t tamper with it. (Jun 2007)
  • Confederate flag on top of capitol was wrong; in front is ok. (May 2007)
  • Leave gay marriage to the states. (Jan 2007)
  • John Lewis was as courageous as anyone could ever hope to be. (Apr 2004)
  • Fear did not restrain Dr. King to resist repression. (Apr 2004)
  • 1994: No Senate hiring discrimination by sexual orientation. (Jan 2004)
  • Support evangelism but don’t pander to evangelical leaders. (Feb 2000)
  • Inter-racial dating ban is idiotic and cruel. (Feb 2000)
  • Career-long history of supporting Indian causes. (Jan 2000)
  • Ten Commandments would bring virtue to our schools. (Jan 2000)
  • Confederate flag is a “symbol of heritage”. (Jan 2000)
  • Allow, but not mandate, school prayer. (Jan 2000)
  • Would be “comfortable” with a gay president. (Dec 1999)
  • Flying Confederate flag should be left to states. (Sep 1999)
  • 1st Amend. not a shield for hate groups. (Aug 1999)
  • Indian gambling OK; lottery is not. (Aug 1999)
  • Hollywood should voluntarily self-censor sex and violence. (Jul 1999)
  • Supports Amendment against flag-burning. (Apr 1999)
  • We don’t need laws against Spanish language & culture. (Mar 1999)

http://www.ontheissues.org/Civil_Rights.htm#Barack_Obama

Control freaks

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Do you yourself know when you are to be submissive to others and when you are to lead? How do you know this? Can you tell the difference between the voice of God and that of the devil now too? Most People still cannot.. sad.
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There is a very dangerous person that  we should be aware of, and even not associate with,   one who is also mainly  the devil’s follower, one  that is the self centered, sarcastic,  withdrawn silhouette control freak.  .
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Like the Apostle Judas, and they tend to do they dirty  work in the background, not transparently to all, do have a hidden bad agenda .The Last Supper specifically portrays the reaction given by each apostle when Judas is wearing green and blue and is in shadow,  looking rather withdrawn . An Apostate. Apostasy in  Christianity refers to the rejection of Christianity by someone who formerly was a Christian.;The term apostasy comes from the Greek word apostasia (“ἀποστασία”) meaning defection, departure, revolt or rebellion. It has been described as “a willful falling away from, or rebellion against Jesus Christ,  Christianity. Apostasy is the rejection of the teachings of Jesus Christ by one who has been a Christian… describing those who have  voluntarily and consciously abandoned next their  original faith in the God of  the covenant, who manifests himself most completely in Jesus Christ. “Apostasy is the antonym of conversion; it is deconversion.”
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And it seems 50 percent of once loudly professing Christians will next become Apostates, sell Jesus cause they  falsely  did not get what they wanted, even wealth,  power, fame, recognition, more sex…  http://kambulow.blogspot.ca/2013/06/are-you-not-falsely-angry.html
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– With·drawn   v. Past participle of withdraw. adj. 1. Not readily approached; remote. 2. a. Not friendly or sociable; aloof. b. Emotionally .
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– Control freak It is a serious personality disorder and is a derogatory term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is to be done. A draining person.  People who feel out of control . Manipulators  The control freaks are people who are falsely terrified of any failure. Perfectionists. They can not trust that anyone to do a better job than they will. a false belief that  that if they  can change another person’s undesirable behavior, then you both will be happier or more fulfilled.  The Person  who if not in control of many aspects even in other’s lives will go ballistic. This ensues telling, demanding,and a control freak likes to claim the successes of others as their own. These people obsessively try to dictate how you’re supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything; disagree at your peril. Control freaks rarely know that they are one. They believe that they are helping people with their “constructive criticism” or taking over a project because “no one else will do it right.” They spout, dictate unsolicited advice and use anger often to put you in your place. You cannot tell them what to do.; .Express to them your right to be heard, and also to do things your way too.;
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Some clear signs of the Control freaks  for your -diagnosing pleasure.

1 They try to “help them” change  by pointing it out, usually over and over.

2 They try  micromanage others to make them fit their often unrealistic expectations. They can’t accept others  imperfection they  don’t think anyone else should either.

3 They continually  judge others’ behavior as right or wrong and without love, passive-aggressively withhold attention, contact  until they fall in line with their demands,  expectations. Sitting in silent judgment  an  other form of control.

4 They offer “constructive criticism” as a veiled attempt to advance their own agenda.

5   Instead of just being themselves , they attempt to deceive others by projection  of their false   impression of   them selves

6 Fear mongers, threateners   and manipulators.

7 Know it all.

8 They  intervene on behalf of others by trying to explain or dismiss their negative behaviors to others.

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“Arguing with the control freak seldom works. Why? Because they are an expert at justifying to themselves and everyone else why they are right. They are world authorities in being “right”. They have spent whole lifetimes practicing “being right”. So trying to out-argue them can be nigh on impossible.”
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Simply  walk away – let them try rather to control others
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Many even professing Christian persons see themselves as teachers, facilitators, coordinators, leaders, when in fact they are still just dictators, bullies, some even immoral agressive jungle fighters, control freaks who need to repent.. 
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Not surprisingly many prideful people try to take the place of God in my life too, AND these imposters claim even that they have been chosen, designated by God to command over me, THAT  I am required into forced submission to their whims, desires , commands. But funny God now himself has not revealed those facts as well to me BUT  only to them. I put my trust in God and not in man.. Me I am still always rightfully actively resistant to all of the abusers, bullies, liars, even in the Church, GOVERNMENTS, CORPORATIONS, POLICE and their oppressions. etc., still too, for all it takes for evil to prosper is for good people to do nothing about it. So should we all!
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AND WHEN YOU DO NOT DO WHAT THEY WANT YOU TO DO THESE SAME RATHER LITTLE BAD CHILDREN INSULT YOU, SLANDER YOU, DIVORCE YOU, OSTRACIZE YOU, BAD MOUTH YOU.
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If you are a   Control freak you are not only still an unrealistic, immature, immoral person  but you  may have a serious personality disorder. 
 
You likley are a menace, plus a real danger to yourself and to others, for you are an abuser, a human rights violator too.
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I can readily recognize bad  control freaks on the net cause they want to give me advice how to write my post, what to write, in fact they want to rather  write it for me.. rather fools is what they really are.. I freely can speak for myself, write for myself now too. You readily find these freaks  also in churches, homes, etc., demonic enslavers is what they rather are too  now. Not much point in being nice to them for often they are too dumb to understand who they really are too often too… and they rarely change.
Having clearly now an exaggerated emphasis of your own self importance, being tottally in  control is part of a cluster of behaviors that can be labeled as compulsive and generally characterized by perfectionism, orderliness, workaholic tendencies, an inability to make commitments or to trust others and a real cover-up for your fear of having your own flaws exposed. You are exposed now still too.. 
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All  these type of Persons who  believe they can protect themselves by staying in control of every aspect of their lives, or of others, including their relationships are idiots, fools, grossly in error, in need of professional help, good pastoral counseling.
I rightfully  believe in the right of free speech, mine, yours, everyone else’s and not solely yours.
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Mostly all of you have had to contend with control freaks and they are found everywhere, in Corporations, at  home, in churches too..
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These are those people who insist on having their way in all interactions with you. They wish to set the agenda and decide what it is you will do and when you will do it. You know who they are – they have a driving need to run the show and call the shots. Lurking within the fabric of the conversation is the clear threat that if you do not accede to their needs and demands, they will be unhappy.. and they will delete your post…
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While in reality God has made us all equal, and GAVE US ALL MOUTHS WE CAN SPEAK WITH, EARS TO LISTEN, it seems some people, in churches, on the net, elsewhere, they  still wrongfully do think they are better than others, or want to dominate others, do try to give orders to others, do try to make rules for others  that they too often themselves do not follow too, they are in fact still bullies..  and now why is that? and who do they think they are now that they are so special? Mere fools. They mostly have a hidden agenda, they are falsely seeking fame, power, control, a position of prestige, for they are immoral slave drivers trying to walk on the back of others.
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I have already mentioned it to you rightfully and often too  before that I often get phonecall,s  letters from some persons telling me what I can and cannot write on their sites, rather them wanting to write all of my posts too it seems.
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So many disturbed persons are now disturbed by the contents of my posts, so these  ostriches try to find a false excuse not to deal with it, and try to instead falsely delete it. The control freaks  emotional stakes includes their own identity and sense of well-being. Being in control gives them the temporary illusion and sense of calmness, a false feeling of superiority. and what fools they are when in reality they are so far from it now too.
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Control freaks or Bullies, abusers, wrongfully do cause  others stress so they can maintain a false sense of order.
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These people themselves firstly are still riddled mostly with anxiety, fear, insecurity, and anger. They’re very critical of themselves their lover and their friends, but underneath all that still too that supposedly perfect outfit and great body is a mountain of real unhappiness, unresolved guilt, disturbed person who   need professional help. Help them to get it.. inform their superiors.
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Certainly, it’s natural to want to be in control of your life. But when you have to be in control of the people around you as well, well you have gone crazy, become a fool, a demonic controlled person who can’t rest until you get your way and you are headed down a very bumpy ride, it is easier to try to control yourself, and impossible to control all the others.(1 Cor 9:27 KJV)  But I keep under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a castaway.
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Beware always of men and women, bullies, tormentors, control freaks,  persons, civil and public servants,  politicians, pastors, leaders, elders, who falsely do, will try to enslave you, oppress you, exploit you even while they claim they are proclaiming the truth, democracy, trying to help you, etc.,
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Is 51:23 ..your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass overIs 55:7 Let the wicked forsake his way and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord, and He will have love, pity, {and} mercy for him, and to our God, for He will multiply to him His abundant pardon. 8 For My thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways My ways, says the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.
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Is 56:10 watchmen are blind, they are all without knowledge; they are all dumb dogs, they cannot bark; dreaming, lying down, they love to slumber.
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The need to control is almost always fueled by anxiety – though control freaks seldom recognize their fears. At work, they may worry about failure. In relationships, they may worry about not having their needs met. To keep this anxiety from overwhelming them, they try to control the people or things around them. They have a hard time with negotiation and compromise and they can’t stand imperfection. Needless to say, they are difficult to live with, work with and/or socialize with.
 
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   “Those who demand the most often give the least.”  Ask them to send you something or do something for you. By asking something of them, you will be indicating that you are not intimidated or diminished by their behavior patterns. In order to not feel degraded, humiliated and have your sense of self and self worth assaulted, you need to avoid being bulldozed by a controlling lover, boss or friend. When you are caught up in a truly destructive/controlling attachment, the best response may still also still be to expose them and to call the police and also walk out.
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In generally in the more liberal freedom loving society of Canada both the wife and the children tend to have much more freedom, rights, make their own decisions,  over many other countries and as a result the culture shock is a very real problem for some new immigrant spouses where the husband was used to being obeyed, and being the sole head of the home  thus  it’s not altogether uncommon for some of the new immigrant  home situations to become  unacceptably violent.
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 IT IS NOW MORE  RARE BUT I DO ALSO NOW STILL GET BULLIED BY RELIGIOUS BULLIES,  ABUSERS TOO..   not just by the past bad cops
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The WRONGFULLY STILL Unrepentant  bully’s problem is that he or she is one of those bad persons  who only feels truly alive when voicing hostility and contempt for his “enemies.” Without that, he or she starts gasping for air. It’s his nature.. self-destructive” ..  clearly these immoral  Bully, Basher of others, Abusers of others has a disappointed, deflated ego, negative self worth,  most likely related to past unresolved guilt, as a result  of  that   the bully, he or she, tries falsely to   build  their ego up by bashing, hating others, by being an antagonists against  his proclaimed enemies, which too often also  is most people , for  he or she no longer trust anyone, and Abusers this is a common very typical approach, fact in the character build up of Bullies, Bashers, but their approach is futile, the subsequent feeling of self worth dissipates too quickly, are actually replaced by guilt,  and his ego, self worth likely needs to be recharged with new hate.. and is replaced with more and larger hatred of the others.  I have seen this type of wrong behavior not just in bad managers, bad politicians, bad persons, but  in alcoholics, and most often in Albertan rednecks ,but also  in religious   fundamentals evangelicals who promote hated towards Pentecostal Christians as well, and  now as well as the crooked pastor wrongfully  fighting for control over others. Public exposure and prosecution of these bad persons here too services everyone’s best interest.
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Here also is what I know for sure, the older the person is the more extreme, more severe, the more difficult the punishment has  to be on them to cause them to personally to change in their own  negative ways, for they are too set in them now too.
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