Luke 6:42 (KJV) Either how canst thou say to thy brother, Brother, let me pull out the mote that is in thine eye, when thou thyself beholdest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye, and then shalt thou see clearly to pull out the mote that is in thy brother’s eye.
Matthew 7: 2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. 3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? 4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? 5Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye. 6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you. 7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: 8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
If you’re like most people, when you have a problem with someone else, you focus on what that person did wrong. You think the problem would get better if the other person would change. We often are sensitive or see faults in others as we tend to have the same faults, but do not see or try to change the same or worse faults in ourselves.
A quick-tempered man does foolish things, and a crafty man is hated. (Proverbs 14:17)
“Man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires” (James 1:20).
Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil. (Psalm 37:8)
A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult. (Proverbs 12:16)
Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. (Proverbs 12:18)
A wise man fears the Lord and shuns evil, but a fool is hotheaded and reckless. (Proverbs 14:16)
A patient man has great understanding, but a quick-tempered man displays folly. (Proverbs 14:29)
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)
A hot-tempered man stirs up dissension, but a patient man calms a quarrel. (Proverbs 15:18)
Better a patient man than a warrior, a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city. (Proverbs 16:32)
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. (Proverbs 17:27)
It is to a man’s honor to avoid strife, but every fool is quick to quarrel. (Proverbs 20:3)
Do not say, “I’ll pay you back for this wrong!” Wait for the LORD, and he will deliver you. (Proverbs 20:22)
Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control. (Proverbs 25:28)
Mockers stir up a city, but wise men turn away anger (Proverbs 29:8)
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control. (Proverbs 29:11)
An angry man stirs up dissension, and a hot-tempered one commits many sins. (Proverbs 29:22)
You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, “Do not murder, and anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.” But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment … first go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew 5:21-24)
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:21)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)
The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions. (Galatians 5:19-20)
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-7)
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:29-32)
Let your gentleness be evident to all. (Philippians 4:5)
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. (Colossians 3:8)
And the Lord’s servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. (2 Timothy 2:24)
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. (James 1:19-20)
Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. (1 Peter 3:9)
James 1:19 beloved brethren But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;
Matthew 18:15-17 – Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.
Proverbs 27:5 – Open rebuke [is] better than secret love.
1 Timothy 5:20 – Them that sin rebuke before all, that others also may fear.
Titus 2:15 – These things speak, and exhort, and rebuke with all authority. Let no man despise thee.
2 Timothy 4:2 – Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.
2 Timothy 3:16-17 – All scripture [is] given by inspiration of God, and [is] profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness:
James 5:20 – Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.
Proverbs 27:6 – Faithful [are] the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy [are] deceitful.
Proverbs 1:23 – Turn you at my reproof: behold, I will pour out my spirit unto you, I will make known my words unto you.
Proverbs 29:15 – The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left [to himself] bringeth his mother to shame.
Luke 17:3-4 – Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. (Read More…)
Proverbs 9:8-9 – Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee. (Read More…)
Revelation 3:19 – As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
Hebrews 4:12 – For the word of God [is] quick, and powerful, and sharper than any twoedged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and [is] a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.
Mark 16:14 – Afterward he appeared unto the eleven as they sat at meat, and upbraided them with their unbelief and hardness of heart, because they believed not them which had seen him after he was risen.
1 Timothy 5:1 – Rebuke not an elder, but intreat [him] as a father; [and] the younger men as brethren;
1 Corinthians 5:12 – For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
2 Thessalonians 3:15 Yet do not regard him as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.
Titus 3:10 Reject a factious man after a first and second warning,
1 Corinthians 5:11 But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler–not even to eat with such a one.
Romans 16:17 Now I urge you, brethren, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them.
Galatians 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.
So many persons falsely choose to remain ignorant and do distort reality such as the truth while God loves the sinner, and he does everything in his power to try to reach them, to help them but in reality God still will not overlook the sins of the unrepentant wicked persons but rather will even deal very severely with them.. sooner or later. But while we may now judge all the others we all still will be judged ourselves as well.
Eccl 7:13 KJV) Consider the work of God: for who can make that straight, which he hath made crooked? 14 In the day of prosperity be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him. 15 All things have I seen in the days of my vanity: there is a just man that perisheth in his righteousness, and there is a wicked man that prolongeth his life in his wickedness. 16 Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself? 17 Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time? 18 It is good that thou shouldest take hold of this; yea, also from this withdraw not thine hand: for he that feareth God shall come forth of them all.
Before you try to change others, pray first and ask God what you should do. Sometimes you still do need to talk others about their problems. You may need to talk about problems from time to time. The key is to do it still God’s way—with courtesy and respect.