Abused?

 These links below  are provided for possible reflection, but I do not agree with all of the contents ..

 Articles About Church Abuse

Articles about spiritual abuse, abuse in the church, and hypocrisy… divorced by your church?

Happy Promise Keeper Public Rebuke & Record

Running the Race & Fighting the Fight

Making a Molehill Out of a Mountain

Touch Not God’s Anointed

A Look at Why Abuse Victims Stop Attending Church

Evicted From the Church

Being Reconciled to the Church After Hurt

When the Church Assaults the Sanctity of Life

What the Bible Says About Abusive Pastoral Authority

How Much Do I Love You?

Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment of Sodom

Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment to Church Leaders

Floating in Pots of Sick Irony

And the Plot Thickens…

Should You Speak Out?

Why NOT Speak Out?

Are We Ruining God’s Image By Speaking Out?

All That is Necessary

Why Abuse MUST Be Reported

Does God Need Us to Protect His Reputation?

The Limits of Forgiveness

The Christian Personna — articles about how Christians are perceived by everyone else.

God’s Call for Justice and Right Judgment

Abuse Allegations in Christian Homes for Troubled Teens

Former Hephzibah House Students Continue to Raise Awareness

Mrs. Williams of Hephzibah House Writes About Women

Ron Williams of Hephzibah House Writes About Discipline

Raising Awareness About Abusive “Homes” for Kids

Government Regulation of Churches

When Christianity is a Cult

The Church and Political Power

The Church, Homosexuality, Sodom & Gomorrah

Teachings of Abuse in the Church

ARTICLES ABOUT SPIRITUAL ABUSE

Abuse in the Christian Home

This set of articles is a great place to start.
Victim or Survivor Series

These articles can be read in any order.

The Word – Power of the Tongue, Spirit of Murder, & Separating from Abuse, series

What Does the Bible Really Say? — Wives Submit

What Does the Bible Really Say? — Don’t Put Asunder

Child Abuse Definitions

Why Do Children NOT Tell About Abuse?

How Can I Honor an Abusive Parent?

The Issue at the Heart of Domestic Violence

Blessing for the Ultimate Sacrifice in an Abusive Marriage

What If I Think My Spouse is Abusive? Question/Answer

Verbal Abuse and How to Recognize It

Agreeing with Curses

Has Economic Downturn Caused Increase in Domestic Violence?

The Dangers of Defending Yourself

Is It Godly to Deny Our Feelings in Abuse?

The Last Curse

The Breastplate of Righteousness

Is It Rape When Your Husband Does It?

Does Rape Feel Good?

The “Not Rape” Epidemic

Is a Lap Dance at a Strip Club Adultery?

Should I Get a Divorce?

Domestic Violence and Stockholm Syndrome

Is Domestic Abuse Just a Satanic Deception?

Relationship Warning Signs

Vision Forum, Bill Gothard, Patriarchy and Multigenerational Faithfulness

The Neatnik and the “Relaxed” Housekeeper

More Reasons it Matters

“I Told My Secret, and The Church…”

Should You Speak Out?

Why NOT Speak Out?

Are We Ruining God’s Image By Speaking Out?

All That is Necessary

The Limits of Forgiveness

Rick Warren and Saddleback Church on Domestic Violence

Transcript of Saddleback Church Teaching on Abuse

Transcript of Saddleback Church Teaching on Divorce

Transcript of Saddleback Church Teaching on “Miserable Marriage”

Theology of an Abusive Marriage

Is “Fireproof” Helpful for Abusive Marriages?

Why Does it Matter?

Why Pastors Won’t Stand Against Abuse

Pastoral Denial: What it Says and Why it Matters

Abuse in the Church? Be Ye Warmed and Filled!

How Much Do I Love You?

Why a Short Sentence for Offenders Cannot Be “Enough”

Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment to Church Leaders

Abuse in the Church Brings Judgment of Sodom

Floating in Pots of Sick Irony

Why Abuse MUST Be Reported

Clergy Responses to Domestic Violence

What Would Your Church Do?

A Look at Why Abuse Victims Stop Attending Church

Evicted From the Church

When the Church Assaults the Sanctity of Life

A Christian Counselor Writes About Abuse in Christian Marriages

A True Story About Abuse in a Christian Home

I Wish I Had Known to Call the Police

How Abuse Affects a Child, Part I

“He Taught Me How to Fly – How Abuse Affects a Child, Part 2

No Bruises = No Abuse?

Discipline: When is it Abuse?

Is Abuse Caused by Demon Possession?

God Answers Prayer in Abusive Marriages

Verbal Rage in Marriage and Parenting

CDC Links Domestic Violence to Health Problems

A Preacher’s View of Domestic Violence

IT IS TIME TO BEGIN SPEAKING: The Church and Domestic Violence

The Devastation of Denial

Does God Want Me to Stay in an Abusive Marriage?

Fact-ional Christianese Marriage Menders

Marital Abuse & the Bible

Do We Think Enough of Marriage to Respond to Domestic Abuse?

One Man’s Story of Being An Abuser

Respect and Equality in Marriage

THE Biblical Grounds for Divorce

What the Bible Says About Divorce, Series

Sticks & Stones: Why Verbal Abuse Kills, Series

Is Dr. James Dobson’s Advice to Abuse Victims Dangerous, Series

What Happens When Someone is Sexually Assaulted, Series

What Happens When the Church Helps

Basics

The Hidden Lock in the Door to Life’s Answers

In the Beginning — God Created Male and Female

Characteristics of Repentance

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Negative behavior

  • Verbal abuse is always unacceptable too. So are the Bullies now too.
  • Young Offenders, Sibling rivalry, War
  • How to deal with the Negative circumstances in your life..
  • The too common abusive silent treatment
  • Coping with Personal unresolved Stress
  • Marriage breakdown
  • My comments

    I have seen a whole city of proud, abusive pastors, who felt that they could not be touched, till I had arrived at God’s request..

    Once publically exposed next even the government acted quickly to pull their tax free status, stopped their right to issue donations reciepts and the door of the worst church now was closed forever.. all of the pastors were laid off too..

    Public exposure and examplary prosecution of the unrepentant guilty persons serves everyone’s best interest..

    “Those whom I love I chasten and rebuke as well”

    God does not want you to remain in an abusive marriage… and God will make the door at the right time for you to leave it as well.. trust Him.

    ONE OF THE MOST COMMON, POPULAR TOPICS, SEARCHES ON THE INTERNET is can a Christian next get divorced and remarried, and the simple answer is no! but wait do not stop reading yet.. if you are married, living to a demon, a control freak, a liar, a lazy good for nothing abusive person then please now do immediately get out of the marriage, do get an immediate  separation.. and this not the kind of advice you would expect from a preacher of peace  and love, but I am telling you all  this for our own good, and  you can thank me later.. and maybe next the still good for nothing bum, lousy spouse, he or  she will wake up as  to what she is really like and they may try to get help to change herself, himself.. but meanwhile don’t feel guilty about the peace you now have in your life.. By the way make sure first you are not the creepy, a good for nothing spouse yourself otherwise by your actions you will be doing your own spouse a great, great  service. 

    One of the thing that bothers me about allowing someone to walk over me, to verbally abuse me, is where do I draw the line next, put a stop to it.. so I tend to stop it as soon as I see it instead…not a door mat to walk over.. one of the best ways is to have nothing to do with the abuser anymore..

    God does not want you to remain in an abusive marriage… nor in an abusive church, or with an abusive pastor as well..

    In the first week I was in a new church I immediately saw that the pastor himself was an abusive, control freak pastor and I did not remain there too long..

    >>The church is .. evicting … members who don’t “walk the line.”

    The 3 major most common reasons, but not valid often it seems,  for Church eviction in Canada that I have noted are
    -refusal to submit to the pastor’s demands
    – if you have suddenly became poor, are out of work, or refuse to support the tithe.
    – if you ask someone to repent of their sins

    Jer. 23:14 ..as Sodom, and the inhabitants thereof as Gomorrah.

    Cities that were literally destroyed next..

    I must add that when the unrepentant church leaders, church members resort to physical assaults, put their hands on the abused persons that next death often shortly follows upon these still even unrepentant persons… for God himself does not accept physical, verbal, human rights abuses lightly

    I have seen it often, unexpected, sudden death of these guilty persons in the church

    Many people here relatedly forget the terrible price that even Apostle Paul still paid after he was saved for his previous physical abuse of Christians.. he was buffeted..suffered..

    Well the proper Biblical step is first for the Christian person to ask the offender to repent..

    The second proper step if they do not repent is to have 2 witness that you have asked them to repent again.. but you do not need any witness to support your allegations..

    The third proper step is to inform the rest of body of Christ their unrepentant sin

    Now God is free to act and may ask that you bring it to the proper authorities

    I have noted to someone recently that the New testament and Old Testament do not allow a wife to divorce her husband, only the male can divorce, but she can separate.

    and i had also noted that the new testament specifically indicates that a wife can influence her husband by her good behavior.. the same is not said about the husband..

    Now  the guilt of being married again after a divorce, is normal for God still does hate divorce… 90 percent of persons who remarry after a divorce are likley to divorce again too.. likley they were also a part of the problem of course. And just cause some people stay married does not  mean they were, are more spiritual now too..

    In generally in the more   liberal society of Canada both the wife and the children tend to have much more freedom, rights, make their own decisions,  over many other countries and as a result the culture shock is a very real problem for some new immigrant spouses where the husband was used to being obeyed, and being the sole head of the home  thus  it’s not altogether uncommon for some of the new immigrant  home situations to become  unacceptably violent.

     
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    The Joy of God’s Word

     
    Is 55:1 WAIT {and} listen, everyone who is thirsty! Come to the waters; and he who has no money, come, buy and eat! Yes, come, buy [priceless, spiritual] wine and milk without money and without price [simply for the self-surrender that accepts the blessing]. Is 55:2 Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your earnings for what does not satisfy? Hearken diligently to Me, and eat what is good, and let your soul delight itself in fatness [the profuseness of spiritual joy]. Is 55:3 Incline your ear [submit and consent to the divine will] and come to Me; hear, and your soul will revive; and I will make an everlasting covenant {or} league with you, even the sure mercy (kindness, goodwill, and compassion) promised to David.
     
    Is 55:6 Seek, inquire for, {and} require the Lord while He may be found [claiming Him by necessity and by right]; call upon Him while He is near.

    Is 55:7 Let the wicked forsake his way and the unrighteous man his thoughts; and let him return to the Lord, and He will have love, pity, {and} mercy for him, and to our God, for He will multiply to him His abundant pardon.
     
    Remember the Joy of God’s word and the promises it brings to you as well..
     
    Is 56:11 Yes, the dogs are greedy; they never have enough. And such are the shepherds who cannot understand; they have all turned to their own way, each one to his own gain, from every quarter [one and all]. Is 56:12 Come, say they, We will fetch wine, and we will fill ourselves with strong drink! And tomorrow shall be as this day, a day great beyond measure.
     
    and I was reminded of those corrupters of God’s word who would lie to us all  and lie to us and say that smoking, drunkenness, marijuana is ok ..
     
    Is 53:3 He was despised and rejected {and} forsaken by men, a Man of sorrows {and} pains, and acquainted with grief {and} sickness; and like One from Whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we did not appreciate His worth {or} have any esteem for Him. 4  Surely He has borne our griefs (sicknesses, weaknesses, and distresses) and carried our sorrows {and} pains [of punishment], yet we [ignorantly] considered Him stricken, smitten, and afflicted by God [as if with leprosy].  5 But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our guilt {and} iniquities; the chastisement [needful to obtain] peace {and} well-being for us was upon Him, and with the stripes [that wounded] Him we are healed {and} made whole.  6 All we like sheep have gone astray, we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord has made to light upon Him the guilt {and} iniquity of us all.
     
     or all those who do lie to us and say that God does not heal anyone today of any of their sickness, not even by the laying of hands, anointing with oil, prayers..            

    Is 53:9 And they assigned Him a grave with the wicked, and with a rich man in His death, although He had done no violence, neither was any deceit in His mouth.
     
    and what about all those immoral persons,  abusers, slanderers, control freaks we encounter on the net as well too often still…
     
    Is 54:17 But no weapon that is formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue that shall rise against you in judgment you shall show to be in the wrong. This [peace, righteousness, security, triumph over opposition] is the heritage of the servants of the Lord [those in whom the ideal Servant of the Lord is reproduced]; this is the righteousness {or} the vindication which they obtain from Me [this is that which I impart to them as their justification], says the Lord.    

    Is 51:7 Listen to Me, you who know rightness {and} justice {and} right standing with God, the people in whose heart is My law {and} My instruction: fear not the reproach of men, neither be afraid {nor} dismayed at their revilings. Is 51:8 For [in comparison with the Lord they are so weak that things as insignificant as] the moth shall eat them up like a garment, and the worm shall eat them like wool. But My rightness {and} justice [and faithfully fulfilled promise] shall be forever, and My salvation to all generations.    

    Is 51:11 [The Lord God says] And the redeemed of the Lord shall return and come with singing to Zion; everlasting joy shall be upon their heads. They shall obtain joy and gladness, and sorrow and sighing shall flee away. Is 51:12 I, even I, am He Who comforts you. Who are you, that you should be afraid of man, who shall die, and of a son of man, who shall be made [as destructible] as grass,    

    Is 51:22 Thus says your Lord, the Lord, and your God, Who pleads the cause of His people: Behold, I have taken from your hand the cup of staggering {and} intoxication; the cup of My wrath you shall drink no more. Is 51:23 And I will put it into the hands of your tormentors {and} oppressors, those who said to you, Bow down, that we may ride {or} tread over you; and you have made your back like the ground and like the street for them to pass over.               

    Is 49:1 LISTEN TO me, O isles {and} coastlands, and hearken, you peoples from afar. The Lord has called me from the womb; from the body of my mother He has named my name. Is 49:2 And He has made my mouth like a sharp sword; in the shadow of His hand has He hid me and made me a polished arrow; in His quiver has He kept me close {and} concealed me.
     
    Is 49:26 And I will make those who oppress you consume themselves [in mutually destructive wars], thus eating their own flesh; and they will be drunk with their own blood, as with sweet wine; and all flesh will know [with a knowledge grounded in personal experience] that I, the Lord, am your Savior and your Redeemer, the Mighty One of Jacob.
      
    Is 61:1 THE SPIRIT of the Lord God is upon me, because the Lord has anointed {and} qualified me to preach the Gospel {of} good tidings to the meek, the poor, {and} afflicted; He has sent me to bind up {and} heal the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the [physical and spiritual] captives and the opening of the prison {and} of the eyes to those who are bound,