Building and maintaining personal relationships with others, either Qualitative or Quantitative relationships? they should be the key goal in one’s life ?
Personal relationships DEVELOPMENT, MAINTENANCE now are really important to some persons.
I have often heard seniors, educators , teachers, pastors say that one’s own relationship with one’s parents is also a priority.
(Mat 19:19 KJV) Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
It is also well known that Jesus loved Lazuraus and his family.. John 11:2 KJV It was that Mary which anointed the Lord with 4 When Jesus heard that, he said, This sickness is not unto death, but for the glory of God, that the Son of God might be glorified thereby. 5 Now Jesus loved Martha, and her sister, and Lazarus.
We all have a desire to be loved, a need to be wanted, to be accepted, to be approved by others, even to please others it seems too.. Personal relationships are really important to some persons. It likely all now explains why the social internet networks are so popular
Personal relationships are the main goals, priority. They are God ordained goals?
(Mat 22:39 KJV) And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.
(Lev 19:18 KJV) Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the LORD.
(2 Th 3:10 KJV) For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. 11 For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies. 12 Now them that are such we command and exhort by our Lord Jesus Christ, that with quietness they work, and eat their own bread.
Some PERSONS rather would say getting and maintaining a job, a career are, is RATHER the most important thing in life, for a job is essential forputting goods, food, bread on the table, and one’s personal happiness is often defined by the work one does too.. but even here personal networking seems to be essential in getting ahead to doing a good job..
The business persons the politician too would agree that establishing, maintaining, building personal relationships are very important for after all relationships, contacts are essential for his own personal business development, profitability, getting repeat customers, support especially. Relationships are also important to the the ambitious achiever as well who wants to get ahead,, to be promoted, thus a goal of personal relations are very important as well to the Hireling pastors who are here to advance, promote themselves, to get richer in the process.
Some others would still rather say that one’s family relationship are the most import as well, the relationship with ones spouse, children, brothers and sisters..
(1 Tim 5:8 KJV) But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
Some others loudly would still rather say that the spousal relationships is the most important aspect?
The supposedly Important MARRIAGE Intimacies? SELF CENTERED GOALS?
– a bond of Spiritual Intimacy… but the FIRST all important relationship is not that between a husband and wife but that one with God! Too often God is neglected and why is that? No excuses here are acceptable.
– Emotional Intimacy… the “heart to heart” connection the intimate couple CRAVED BY EMOTIONAL WOMEN? and certainly not by men, many men tend to lie to women to make them feel good here..
– Intellectual Intimacy… SEEMS TO BY PASS ANY NEED FOR LOVE.. Though we allow one another to be unique, is it important that we share common core values? A truly intimate couple will often even think the same thing? or be led by the same evil spirit? REAL LOVE ACCEPTS A PERSON THE WAY THEY ARE EVEN WITH THE DIFFERENCES.
– Sexual Intimacy or Sexual compatibilty IS VERY IMPORTANT too? God has designed a very special physical relationship that draws a husband and wife closer than ever? or a lust that causes them to be tempted by others? Sexual! This seems to be the biggest goal of may persons sadly. Sex still does not make you happy like Jesus does. Many people who have sex are still unhapy with each other, life too.
Most marriages that fail still do fail not due to marital intimacy failures but firstly fail due to laziness, unrealistic expectations, pursuing bad or false values, extreme goals, self centeredness and ADULTERY..
Personal relationship with others should be the key goal in one’s life or is there other more important priorities, goals in life that should be personally followed?
First let us look at the above main quoted verses again and see them in a little bit more detail..
In reality none of these above goals in themselves now are correct, taken to imbalance, extreme, alone, distorted they can be rather deadly.. for any a man is known by the company he keeps and having bad friends, associates, can be personally deadly rather still too.
(Mat 5:43 KJV) Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. 44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; 45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? 47 And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? :48 Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
WHAT WE ARE EVEN TO CULTIVATE RELATIONSHIPS STILL WITH PEOPLE WHO DO NOT APPRECIATE US, HAVE NO USE FOR US? What Ostrazation, divorce, separation from them is not allowed?
(Mat 19:19 KJV) Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 20 The young man saith unto him, All these things have I kept from my youth up: what lack I yet? 21 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.
Loving one’s family clearly is not enough.. one has to love others
but one first has to love God with all one hearts, soul and body too
(Mark 12:29 KJV) And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord: 30 And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. 31 And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.
(Mat 10:37 KJV) He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.
Some others would still rather say that family relationship are the most import as well, the relationship with ones spouse, children, brothers and sisters.. and it seems Jesus failed on that account for his family did not approve of his work goals..
(Mat 13:57 And they were offended in him. But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, save in his own country, and in his own house. 58 KJV) And he did not many mighty works there because of their unbelief.
(Mark 6:5 KJV) And he could there do no mighty work, save that he laid his hands upon a few sick folk, and healed them. 6 And he marvelled because of their unbelief. And he went round about the villages, teaching. 7 And he called unto him the twelve, and began to send them forth by two and two; and gave them power over unclean spirits;
JESUS HIMSELF SEEMS TO HAVE FAILED IN THE AREA OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT, even WITH HIS FAMILY, FRIENDS, OTHERS TOO, FOR HE WAS KILLED BY THE OTHERS, EVEN DIED TOTALLY FORSAKEN, ABANDONED, HE DIED ALMOST ALL ALONE..
Jesus seems to CLEARLY imply THAT DEVELOPING RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS THUS IS NOT THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN ONE’S LIFE but rather personally, clearly doing the Will of the Heavenly Father that was more important even over developing one’s relationships..
(Luke 22:42 KJV) Saying, Father, if thou be willing, remove this cup from me: nevertheless not my will, but thine, be done.
(Mat 12:46 KJV) While he yet talked to the people, behold, his mother and his brethren stood without, desiring to speak with him. 47 Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee. 48 But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren? 49 And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren! 50 For whosoever shall do the will of my Father which is in heaven, the same is my brother, and sister, and mother.
Mat 10:32 Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven. 33 But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven. 34 Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. 35 For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. 36 And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household. :37 He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. 38 And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. 39 He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. 40 He that receiveth you receiveth me, and he that receiveth me receiveth him that sent me. 41 He that receiveth a prophet in the name of a prophet shall receive a prophet’s reward; and he that receiveth a righteous man in the name of a righteous man shall receive a righteous man’s reward. :42 And whosoever shall give to drink unto one of these little ones a cup of cold water only in the name of a disciple, verily I say unto you, he shall in no wise lose his reward.
FOLLOWING AFTER GOD’S WORD IS ALWAYS STILL ESSENTIAL AS WELL
(Mat 13:18 KJV) Hear ye therefore the parable of the sower. 19 When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart. This is he which received seed by the way side. 20 But he that received the seed into stony places, the same is he that heareth the word, and anon with joy receiveth it; 21 Yet hath he not root in himself, but dureth for a while: for when tribulation or persecution ariseth because of the word, by and by he is offended. :22 He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful. 23 But he that received seed into the good ground is he that heareth the word, and understandeth it; which also beareth fruit, and bringeth forth, some an hundredfold, some sixty, some thirty.
Mat 6:31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? 32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. :33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. 34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
(Mat 13:31 KJV) Another parable put he forth unto them, saying, The kingdom of heaven is like to a grain of mustard seed, which a man took, and sowed in his field: 32 Which indeed is the least of all seeds: but when it is grown, it is the greatest among herbs, and becometh a tree, so that the birds of the air come and lodge in the branches thereof.
Mat 7:15 Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. 16 Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? 17 Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. 18 A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. 19 Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. :20 Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. 21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? 23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity. 24 Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: 25 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. 26 And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: 27 And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.
JESUS ALSO RELIED FULLY ON GOD’S HELP, LEADING. (John 5:19 KJV) Then answered Jesus and said unto them, Verily, verily, I say unto you, The Son can do nothing of himself, but what he seeth the Father do: for what things soever he doeth, these also doeth the Son likewise.(John 5:30 KJV) I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me.
There is a stigma that comes with the real cross for the TRUE, Real righteous Christian people seem not fit in this society. They always thus bring attack upon them. He Jesus came to bring a sword. You wield it, for you show what you are realy like in contrast to them. The world thus hates you for it. They wrongfully despise you. Forget about building relationships with them..
Anyway love is not compliance to other’s evil ways. It is standing up for what is best for them. Yes they hate you.
(1 Cor 16:22 KJV) If any man love not the Lord Jesus Christ, let him be Anathema Maranatha.
(1 John 2:15 KJV) Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him
It is ok. God, Jesus loves you.
Why some people still do miss the kingdom of heaven. They cannot give up their sins to God. My father was a soldier who was proud of all other soldiers. Especially the Russian ones. Many orthodox persons boast of their historical heritage but so what? For a half a century I too often clearly notice that many of the Orthodox persons I know they do not practice what their church preaches still. My very religious Orthodox father used to often visit the grave site of many of his deceased friends to pray for them but my father was never known to be charitable or kind to anyone , not even to himself. He used to justify it by saying to me why should I do something good to someone else when they never did anything good to me. Many orthodox persons do honor and venerate St. John to a extreme such as my father also had often did too but I had often wondered why when my father was never willing to make the needed personal changes in his own life, to bring fruit worthy of repentances.. Maybe that was why they admired St John so much cause he did REPENT, AND make the necessary changes. All People who are willfully disobedient to God, falsely still insist on doing their own thing and not doing it God’s way will next miss the boat, and they will not enter into heaven.. for God does not bless disobediences. Cain was a good example of this.
I have been recently counseling a person who desperately wants to be remarried, she has been twice married, but she is not interesting in following after God only after her own desires, lusts.. so no marriage for her will make her happy or replace God’s vacuum in her life still too. God has not promised you now even a right of remarriage.. but he promised you peace, joy and happiness and yes you can have that outside of marriage with Jesus..
If you still do have a God shaped vacuum that is unfilled, then no other things, no relationships or careers, goals, next will satisfy you, not any personal, social, community relationships..
(2 Tim 2:4 KJV) No man that warreth entangleth himself with the affairs of this life; that he may please him who hath chosen him to be a soldier.
Luk 6:22 Blessed are ye, when men shall hate you, and when they shall separate you [from their company], and shall reproach [you], and cast out your name as evil, for the Son of man’s sake.
(Mark 8:36 KJV) For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?
(1 Cor 7:32 KJV) But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
(1 Cor 7:33 KJV) But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
(1 Cor 7:34 KJV) There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
(Heb 11:6 KJV) But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
(John 8:28 KJV) Then said Jesus unto them, When ye have lifted up the Son of man, then shall ye know that I am he, and that I do nothing of myself; but as my Father hath taught me, I speak these things. 29 And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.
(Gal 1:10 KJV) For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.
(Rom 8:8 KJV) So then they that are in the flesh cannot please God.
(1 Th 2:15 KJV) Who both killed the Lord Jesus, and their own prophets, and have persecuted us; and they please not God, and are contrary to all men:
(1 Th 4:1 KJV) Furthermore then we beseech you, brethren, and exhort you by the Lord Jesus, that as ye have received of us how ye ought to walk and to please God, so ye would abound more and more.
(Rom 15:1 KJV) We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves.
(Rom 15:2 KJV) Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.
(1 Cor 10:33 KJV) Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved.
Now if many persons, pastors too now had a real, daily relationship with God and read the Bible regularly they would have already known these truths presented here