There are still negative personal consequences for following after vanities

 

In some parts of the country, cities the divorce rate is as high as 70 percent

Note the reality of a life of  Vanity..
 
 (Lev 26:20 KJV)  And your strength shall be spent in vain: for your land shall not yield her increase, neither shall the trees of the land yield their fruits.
 
(2 Ki 17:15 KJV)  And they rejected his statutes, and his covenant that he made with their fathers, and his testimonies which he testified against them; and they followed vanity, and became vain, and went after the heathen that were round about them, concerning whom the LORD had charged them, that they should not do like them.
 
 
(Job 11:11 KJV)  For he knoweth vain men: he seeth wickedness also; will he not then consider it?
 
(Psa 2:1 KJV)  Why do the heathen rage, and the people imagine a vain thing?
 
(Psa 26:4 KJV)  I have not sat with vain persons, neither will I go in with dissemblers.
 
(Psa 33:17 KJV)  An horse is a vain thing for safety: neither shall he deliver any by his great strength.
 
(Psa 60:11 KJV)  Give us help from trouble: for vain is the help of man.
 
(Psa 89:47 KJV)  Remember how short my time is: wherefore hast thou made all men in vain?
 
(Psa 119:113 KJV)   I hate vain thoughts: but thy law do I love.
 
(Psa 127:1 KJV)   Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain.
 
(Psa 127:2 KJV)  It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep.
 
(Prov 12:11 KJV)  He that tilleth his land shall be satisfied with bread: but he that followeth vain persons is void of understanding.
 
(Prov 31:30 KJV)  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
 
(Eccl 6:12 KJV)  For who knoweth what is good for man in this life, all the days of his vain life which he spendeth as a shadow? for who can tell a man what shall be after him under the sun?
 
(Isa 1:13 KJV)  Bring no more vain oblations; incense is an abomination unto me; the new moons and sabbaths, the calling of assemblies, I cannot away with; it is iniquity, even the solemn meeting.
 
(Isa 30:7 KJV)  For the Egyptians shall help in vain, and to no purpose: therefore have I cried concerning this, Their strength is to sit still.
 
(Isa 45:19 KJV)  I have not spoken in secret, in a dark place of the earth: I said not unto the seed of Jacob, Seek ye me in vain: I the LORD speak righteousness, I declare things that are right.
 
(Isa 65:23 KJV)  They shall not labour in vain, nor bring forth for trouble; for they are the seed of the blessed of the LORD, and their offspring with them.
 
(Jer 2:5 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD, What iniquity have your fathers found in me, that they are gone far from me, and have walked after vanity, and are become vain?
 
(Jer 3:23 KJV)  Truly in vain is salvation hoped for from the hills, and from the multitude of mountains: truly in the LORD our God is the salvation of Israel.
 
(Jer 4:14 KJV)  O Jerusalem, wash thine heart from wickedness, that thou mayest be saved. How long shall thy vain thoughts lodge within thee?
 
(Jer 4:30 KJV)  And when thou art spoiled, what wilt thou do? Though thou clothest thyself with crimson, though thou deckest thee with ornaments of gold, though thou rentest thy face with painting, in vain shalt thou make thyself fair; thy lovers will despise thee, they will seek thy life.
 
(Jer 23:16 KJV)  Thus saith the LORD of hosts, Hearken not unto the words of the prophets that prophesy unto you: they make you vain: they speak a vision of their own heart, and not out of the mouth of the LORD.
 
(Jer 46:11 KJV)  Go up into Gilead, and take balm, O virgin, the daughter of Egypt: in vain shalt thou use many medicines; for thou shalt not be cured.
 
(Jer 50:9 KJV)  For, lo, I will raise and cause to come up against Babylon an assembly of great nations from the north country: and they shall set themselves in array
 
(Lam 4:17 KJV)  As for us, our eyes as yet failed for our vain help: in our watching we have watched for a nation that could not save us.
 
(Ezek 13:7 KJV)  Have ye not seen a vain vision, and have ye not spoken a lying divination, whereas ye say, The LORD saith it; albeit I have not spoken?
 
(Zec 10:2 KJV)  For the idols have spoken vanity, and the diviners have seen a lie, and have told false dreams; they comfort in vain: therefore they went their way as a flock, they were troubled, because there was no shepherd.
 
(Mal 3:14 KJV)  Ye have said, It is vain to serve God: and what profit is it that we have kept his ordinance, and that we have walked mournfully before the LORD of hosts?
 
(Mat 15:9 KJV)  But in vain they do worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
 
(Mark 7:7 KJV)  Howbeit in vain do they worship me, teaching for doctrines the commandments of men.
 
(Rom 1:21 KJV)  Because that, when they knew God, they glorified him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.
 
(1 Cor 3:20 KJV)  And again, The Lord knoweth the thoughts of the wise, that they are vain.
 
(1 Cor 15:2 KJV)  By which also ye are saved, if ye keep in memory what I preached unto you, unless ye have believed in vain.
 
(Eph 5:6 KJV)  Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.
 
(Phil 2:16 KJV)  Holding forth the word of life; that I may rejoice in the day of Christ, that I have not run in vain, neither laboured in vain.
 
(Col 2:8 KJV)  Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.
 
(1 Tim 6:20 KJV)  O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called:
 
(2 Tim 2:16 KJV)  But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.
 
(Titus 1:10 KJV)  For there are many unruly and vain talkers and deceivers, specially they of the circumcision:
 
(Titus 3:9 KJV)  But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain.
 
(James 1:26 KJV)  If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man’s religion is vain.
 
(James 4:5 KJV)  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?
           
If you still do have a God shaped vacuum that is unfilled, then no other things, no relationships or careers, goals, next will satisfy you, not any personal, social, community relationships..
 
Note this reality.. like it or not.. believe it or not..
 
Both fornicators and adulterers are excluded from Heaven. They are pursuing vanities as far as God is concerned..
 
“Have you not known that the unrighteous the reign of God shall not inherit? Be not led astray; neither whoremongers, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, the reign of God shall inherit. And certain of you were these! But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were declared righteous, in the name of the Lord Jesus, and in the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor 6:9).
 
Some of the reasons that relationships and even marriages fail are unrealistic expectations, greed, lies,  laziness and a spouse has false personal values, false assumptions, -the myth of the greener grass, and also the inablity to handle the sheer pace, stress of  of life. And for sure sexual infidelity will tend to kill a marriage, be an immediate grounds for a divorce too.

The Marriages that slide downward go through these stages: romance, reality, resentment, unforgiveness – bitterness  and rebellion – divorce.

still excludes the common realty also that bad friends, bad relatives, others do work hard to break up the marriages too….

Key steps that help to break this cycle and to change marriages are for a start…

First, open your life fully to God. (Luke 6:27). Without God in control of your life these days it is likely your marriage ALSO  next will fail

-Second, follow God’s ways continually. (Ephesians 5:1)

– Honor each other: be faithful and committed, recognize the dignity and special worth of all others, admire, affirm and celebrate each other, and avoid continual fault-finding.

Our personal beliefs and feelings toward people tend to follow what we believe about them. A judgment is MY interpretation of someone’s life at a point in time, it still doesn’t give the whole picture and becomes a label by which I narrowly view and interpret that person. What are some reasons some people too often “put-down” or judge  others rather than affirm, accept them with Christ’s unconditional love? They firstly do not have the real love themselves. They likely come from troubled, divorced homes or are in a troubled marriage, home.

“A love that cherishes is patient and kind (1 Cor. 13:4). To be patient means “to take a long time to boil” and is the opposite of rudeness and irritability. Patience celebrates  our strengths and validates our uniqueness. Kindness involves being gentle, sensitive, considerate, thoughtful and helpful to make life easier for the other person. 

Love delights…

Such love enjoys giving attention to the other, spending time together. (Eccl. 9:9) Such love enjoys expressing affection to the other, including sexual intimacy for those who are married.(1 Corinthians 7:2-5). Such love enjoys growing spiritually with the other, together opening our lives to God  and praying, together getting to know Him better and together following His ways.

(2 Peter 3:18).

“How incredible it would be if in all of our relationships–with God, with our husbands and wives, with our families and with our friends–we could experience great delight!” (Schorr Line, May 29, 2009) Centre Street Church is affiliated with the Evangelical Missionary Church of Canada  http://www.cschurch.ca/

 

(Matthew 19:1 KJV)    And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
2  And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3  The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4  And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5  And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7  They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8  He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9  And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10  His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11  But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12  For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

 

You shall know the truth

 

(John 8:31 KJV)  Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; 32    And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
 
Now as obvious or unobvious to some persons most people are living in deceptions, falsehoods, lies, distortions because they are still too easily deceived
  
(Mat 13:19 KJV)  When any one heareth the word of the kingdom, and understandeth it not, then cometh the wicked one, and catcheth away that which was sown in his heart. This is he which received seed by the way side.
 
(Mat 13:38 KJV)  The field is the world; the good seed are the children of the kingdom; but the tares are the children of the wicked one;
 
(1 John 2:13 KJV)  I write unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I write unto you, young men, because ye have overcome the wicked one. I write unto you, little children, because ye have known the Father.
 
(1 John 2:14 KJV)  I have written unto you, fathers, because ye have known him that is from the beginning. I have written unto you, young men, because ye are strong, and the word of God abideth in you, and ye have overcome the wicked one.
 
(Prov 12:15 KJV)  The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
 
(Prov 15:5 KJV)  A fool despiseth his father’s instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent.
 
(Prov 17:10 KJV)  A reproof entereth more into a wise man than an hundred stripes into a fool.
 
(Prov 18:2 KJV)  A fool hath no delight in understanding, but that his heart may discover itself.
 
(Prov 19:1 KJV)  Better is the poor that walketh in his integrity, than he that is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.
 
(Prov 23:9 KJV)  Speak not in the ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words.
 
(Prov 26:11 KJV)  As a dog returneth to his vomit, so a fool returneth to his folly.
 
(Prov 27:22 KJV)  Though thou shouldest bray a fool in a mortar among wheat with a pestle, yet will not his foolishness depart from him.
 
(Prov 24:6 KJV)  For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.
 
(Deu 32:28 KJV)  For they are a nation void of counsel, neither is there any understanding in them.
 
(Job 5:13 KJV)  He taketh the wise in their own craftiness: and the counsel of the froward is carried headlong.
 
(Job 12:13 KJV)  With him is wisdom and strength, he hath counsel and understanding.
 
(Psa 1:1 KJV)  Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful.
 
(Psa 16:7 KJV)  I will bless the LORD, who hath given me counsel: my reins also instruct me in the night seasons.
 
(Psa 33:10 KJV)  The LORD bringeth the counsel of the heathen to nought: he maketh the devices of the people of none effect.
 
(Psa 33:11 KJV)  The counsel of the LORD standeth for ever, the thoughts of his heart to all generations.
 
(Psa 64:2 KJV)  Hide me from the secret counsel of the wicked; from the insurrection of the workers of iniquity:
 
(Psa 73:24 KJV)  Thou shalt guide me with thy counsel, and afterward receive me to glory.
 
(Psa 106:13 KJV)  They soon forgat his works; they waited not for his counsel:
 
(Psa 107:11 KJV)  Because they rebelled against the words of God, and contemned the counsel of the most High:
 
(Prov 1:25 KJV)  But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof:
 
(Prov 1:30 KJV)  They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof.
 
(Prov 8:14 KJV)  Counsel is mine, and sound wisdom: I am understanding; I have strength.
(Prov 12:15 KJV)  The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
 
(Prov 15:22 KJV)  Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.
 
(Prov 19:20 KJV)  Hear counsel, and receive instruction, that thou mayest be wise in thy latter end.
 
(Prov 19:21 KJV)  There are many devices in a man’s heart; nevertheless the counsel of the LORD, that shall stand.
 
(Prov 20:5 KJV)  Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; but a man of understanding will draw it out.
 
(Prov 20:18 KJV)  Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war.
 
(Prov 21:30 KJV)  There is no wisdom nor understanding nor counsel against the LORD.
 
(Prov 24:6 KJV)  For by wise counsel thou shalt make thy war: and in multitude of counsellors there is safety.
 
(Isa 11:2 KJV)  And the spirit of the LORD shall rest upon him, the spirit of wisdom and understanding, the spirit of counsel and might, the spirit of knowledge and of the fear of the LORD;
 
(Isa 19:3 KJV)  And the spirit of Egypt shall fail in the midst thereof; and I will destroy the counsel thereof: and they shall seek to the idols, and to the charmers, and to them that have familiar spirits, and to the wizards.
 
(Isa 30:1 KJV)  Woe to the rebellious children, saith the LORD, that take counsel, but not of me; and that cover with a covering, but not of my spirit, that they may add sin to sin:
 
(Isa 45:21 KJV)  Tell ye, and bring them near; yea, let them take counsel together: who hath declared this from ancient time? who hath told it from that time? have not I the LORD? and there is no God else beside me; a just God and a Saviour; there is none beside me.
 
(Isa 46:10 KJV)  Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times the things that are not yet done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure:
 
(Jer 23:22 KJV)  But if they had stood in my counsel, and had caused my people to hear my words, then they should have turned them from their evil way, and from the evil of their doings.
 
(Jer 32:19 KJV)  Great in counsel, and mighty in work: for thine eyes are open upon all the ways of the sons of men: to give every one according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his doings:
 
(Hosea 4:12 KJV)  My people ask counsel at their stocks, and their staff declareth unto them: for the spirit of whoredoms hath caused them to err, and they have gone a whoring from under their God.
 
(Micah 4:12 KJV)  But they know not the thoughts of the LORD, neither understand they his counsel: for he shall gather them as the sheaves into the floor.
 
(Eph 1:11 KJV)  In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of him who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will:
 
(Rev 3:18 KJV)  I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see.
 
 
 

It was interesting I was in a really great Church, the spirit of God was moving there mightily and yet God told me to to talk to or to fellowship with the pastors, later I had found out that they were in adultery, stealing, slandering, etc..
  
Sadly for too many persons a church is merely a social club a place to get noticed, to meet one’s friends merely.. not really a place to to fellowship with God
  
Don’t quit 5 minutes before the miracles happen
 
I actually was often in a church were this happened, the first church service would start and finish 2 1.3 hours later and the crowd would disperse, but next for those who did not want to go there was another church service lasting for hours into the wee hours of the morning , miracles, spectacular and  praising the Lord too..
 
you see you cannot tell God when and how to do it.. many people are  missing out on the blessings cause they rushed out..