I was amazed that so many people next tend to make this one also one of my more popular posts.
A Common Loser’s Strategy is asking to Look at me! Notice me. See who I am! Pay attention to me. I am great! I AM THE GREATEST! Worship me, Praise me. Losers worship the false god of self..A Common Loser’s Strategy is also to Seek Revenge..Too often in life I have met too many a proud, perverse, dictatorial manager, administrators, actually slave drivers, who gets often upset. do pout that others that do not cower in fear, do not submit in absolute reverence under their feet. They now have set themselves up for severe disappointment or heartache or failure in their lives. Years later I met some of these same people unemployed, even destitute and broke.. Many of us want to succeed but at what costs, at the false costs of others? For too many persons Power is intoxicating? Some bad persons they now get a little power and they falsely do think can be abusive with it. they get a little control and thy also get greatly manipulate. they tend to want all things done their way and they try to manipulate and maneuver others, to get these people to do the things they want done, for they are a bully, just like Haman who used his power falsely to bully the people around him. Dream on they are heading for a rude awakening. Their Bitterness is a wasted life..She was merely another typical, common big liar, selfish, self-absorbed, self-centered and fascinated with her own ego, and its false agenda, she still was a people manipulator, a control freak, lazy, unrealistic, an extremist, with her lies, distorted, false values, who had tried to live her dreams on others. She was impatient, unkind, ruthless, uncaring, immoral and she still next could not understand why she was so despised, unwanted, unloved too by all others and why she had a low self esteem. She lost it all, her home, her possessions now too. She had once expected her family, her loved ones, her own special ones to fully look after her, but even they did not want her anymore. She now had ended her life living all alone, in loneliness, with no visitors, friends, to visit her. She has now finally reaped what she had sowed. She had failed to listen to anyone who had warned her that this was what would happen to her next too. Believe me or just now go to the old age homes, see thousands of persons there sitting day and night in a prison chair by the elevator doors with now no one coming to visit them, no one wanting to see them.. and they also now used to think it all happens only to some one else.. it never would happen to them.. they now reaped a bad whirlwind too..(Rev 18:7 KJV) How much she hath glorified herself, and lived deliciously, so much torment and sorrow give her: for she saith in her heart, I sit a queen, and am no widow, and shall see no sorrow. 8 Therefore shall her plagues come in one day, death, and mourning, and famine; and she shall be utterly burned with fire: for strong is the Lord God who judgeth her..Reality- Severe Mid Life crisis, depression IS COMMON TO PEOPLE WHO REAP BAD THINGS CAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN SELF CENTERED, SPOILED, UNKIND.. . This DEPRESSION syndrome is a familiar one. BOTH MEN AND WOMEN AFTER a certain age — and it is not almost always men — do wake up one day and do realize that they still are no longer the center of the universeand they had mnot achieved all THAT THEY HAD WANTED TO BECOME. IT IS DEPRESSING and they do often go crasy as a direct result too..
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Others now fail to look their way, co-workers don’t scurry to fetch them coffee and bosses stop thinking of them a long time ago as someone on the rise. Mommy’s spoiled child rather. Overly self serving, self centered, overly Ambitious. So they consider the alternatives, such as recalibrations, adjustments, or a career changes, clothing style changes, and/or using their jobs resources even to attain their still rather unattainable goals, or by developing a new strategy.. but mostly none of it tends to work, it merely continues their self defined fiascos, for their PERSONAL DESIRES, goals were unrealistic to start of with. So they continue a life of vanity, hubris, malice, even violence, anger, envy, jealousy, rage as well too often, plus their still false arrogance and conceit . They next still hold on to their false notions. They have their own developed, defined strategies. And to anyone who disagrees, it’s dam-you, for you’re nothing, you’re a nobody, you’re pathetic LOSER. If we do now open our eyes we all can see it in world wide, ,over and over, everywhere too.
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Losers making it all worse for themselves because they naively refuse to live with the reality of who they basically are still too.
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In our present modern day world of constant struggle to sustain ourselves economically, it is easy to let stress become predominant, and this in turn, will lead to self centeredness and compromising our own personal moral values firstly. Furthermore deliberate ignorance, stupidity, emotional blackmails. and a false dogmatism have wrecked havoc on many a human life as well.
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All greatness and all examples of real heroes in life now still arise from those persons who have held themselves up to a higher standard, ideal then the Kingdom of Self.
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Unless onr is healed, from the consequences of one’s on sins, unacceptable acts and goals a person is heading toward often sufferings, ill health and depressing moods. Dysfunctional and addictive behavior, bitter losses, and personal crises next escalate from not doing enough to fix things in our lives that have broken down. They next tend to succumb before the smallest of obstacles.
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Maybe I knew him too well but what still surprised me was that my father too was one of the more extrme, unique persons, and he was most self centered. selfish, smug person that I knew, and also he never bothered to try to change himself for the better, he was happy the way he was, doing his own thing. He solely, always saw everyone else’s faults too but never his own even because he was too lazy to try to make posive changes in his own life. Sadly many of his too many bad friends were like him now as well. Still effectively helping to change any others can only come from ones own good personal example, original experience. Ironically my dad he thought he also was a good person who deserved next to go to heaven, something I completely disagreed with.
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The unhealed past can and will cripple you. All of us have been wounded by our interactions with the world, and as these psychic scars accumulate inside our emotional bodies, the more disturbed we become. Over time, they only get worse. Unless effort is made to heal the experiences of hurt, disappointment, rejection, and humiliation from the past, then these persons will continue to have a debilitating effect in our lives. It takes real personal effort to make positive changes in our own life as well. ” Rare is the person who takes time to journal, to walk in nature, or to discuss with others at a deep level what can be done to improve the quality of one own and those of others around them.”
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“Books and teachers may point the way, but ultimately, they do not light the path to deep understanding, and only make a false impression of learning. True spirituality consists of acts of kindness, moments of wisdom, and feelings of high inspiration. When we learn and absorb the lessons of our own life, enjoy genuine warmth in relationship to other people and experience wonder when contemplating the great scheme of all life, then we may awaken to spiritual understanding. Institutions, no matter how venerable, cannot make you spiritual.”
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In your efforts to improve your life by healing these symptoms of failure, do not look around you for much reinforcement, because most people are in deep denial of their own inadequacies.
http://success.articleberry.com/7-root-causes-of-bitter-failure
.Fret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity. For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as a green herb. Psalm 37:1-2
(Est 3:5 KJV) And when Haman saw that Mordecai bowed not, nor did him reverence, then was Haman full of wrath.(Est 7:10 KJV) So they hanged Haman on the gallows that he had prepared for Mordecai.(Est 8:1 KJV) On that day did the king Ahasuerus give the house of Haman the Jews’ enemy unto Esther the queen. And Mordecai came before the king; for Esther had told what he was unto her..Everyone should know by now that self worth, self esteem is a direct product of how you see yourself, or how others see you, do treat you but it is also related directly to what you do.. which can lead to One’s depression..
Now do nothing at all or do mostly bad things and you will feel guilty, you will have a low self worth.Let someone one oppress, abuse you and it can drive you next in reality to personal insanity now as well..Recognition of the problem is a major part of the solution here.. In older adults, symptoms of depression may also include signs of dementia like memory problems and confusion, feelings of extreme irritability or anxiety, pacing and fidgeting. Depression can show itself in headaches, back or muscle aches, racing heart rates, stomach or other gastrointestinal upsets, which can be alleviated if the physical symptoms are prevented or managed with treatment. Other health conditions including heart attack, stroke, hip fractures, and macular degeneration are known to be associated with development of depression. Older women are at a greater risk for depression, and women in general are twice as likely as men to become seriously depressed. Depression is not a normal part of aging, it tends to be a consequential apsect of one’s life. Depression often is an untreated sickness. Undiagnosed and untreated depression often has serious negative personal consequencesFirst find out if you are personally responsible for your depression and next start doing good things instead like eating properly, stop consuming drugs, alcohol and cigarettes too, try getting enough sleep, and managing properly your purchases, expenditures, etc. During the winter season, it’s normal to get the “blues” and to feel as if the weight of the world is closing in all around. Part of the “blues” stem from a lack of routine or exercise, little or not enough light, and less interaction with others. Most people still do possess the ability to bounce back from the blues and start new with a fresh burst of energy. 80 percent of older adults recover from depression after receiving appropriate treatment, actions.or next find out if someone really is responsible for it.. and when you do know who that someone is do call the police, do loudly object, oppose all human rights abuses, do now expose that criminal to all.. stop the abuse. Shout the sin from the Housetop..One of the real sad fact of real life is those minority group of perverted persons, the people abusers who see others as an object to be used to advance themselves, to make money from or to profit from, and once they see that you are of no use to them they immediately do dump you, do not use you anymore, and that includes not just many of the business persons, realtors, landlords, news reporters, editors, salesmen, consultants, professionals, neighbours, acquaintances cops, civil and public servants, pastors, politicians, doctors and medical staff now as well.. I usually do refer to them as prostitutes, gigalos, pimps or slave drivers. So when these same people next often get depressed, do face major negative setbacks.. my heart now basically does not bleed for them...Anxiety stress relief vitamins and minerals work in different ways by providing nutrients which control the metabolism rate and the hormone levels within our bodies. By keeping these two things stable we can provide a better mechanism to cope with stress and anxiety inducing situations. Most of the recommended anxiety stress relief vitamins and minerals can be found in the foods that we eat and can simply be attained by eating a healthy and balanced diet covering all the major food groups. And that is why eating proper foods is important. The Elderly persons need more special care cause they do tend to lack the basic vitamins found in our common foods that help also to reduce one’s personal stress and anxiety.. for a hungry persons tends to be continually stressed and anxious and also do often manifest depression as well.. and what the classic treatment for depression is time, healing, by giving them proper nourishment, and proper rest and sleep.. in this case supplemented by proper pain killers, not improper pain killers and/or merely given proper sleeping pills too.
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Here is how I do try to help many people. You firstly still cannot help anyone who refuses to admit they want help and is unwilling to receive help firstly. So I patiently wait for them to ask for help. SOME PERSONS SADLY DO NEED TO GO THROUGH SOME UNBELIEVABLE HARDSHIPS TOO BEFORE THEY ASK FOR HELP. Next in love I let them talk, I listen, and I clearly agree with their truths, and I also do in love clearly point out the errors of the past, present ways. I look for the root cause of their problems, not merely observing their outward symptoms..(Prov 22:1 KJV) A good name is rather to be chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than silver and gold.
(Eccl 7:1 KJV) A good name is better than precious ointment; and the day of death than the day of one’s birth.
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Here is another thing I see often, bad people trying to falsely justify holding on to their lies, false values, no good approach to life and their bad friends.. next these very same bad friends do turn upon them, hurt them and the abused now next sing a very different tune about them.. I get so upset with the sad selfish, self centered ostriches, and bad sheep who try to be politically correct, say to me and you that we are helpless to try to change the facts, nothing will change the facts of life, it is all a waste of time, so stop rocking the boat.. but now next these very very same perverts and when they get abused they loudly do scream murder, do demand I do everything to help them , to make their abuse known and corrected.. what a change when it concerns them and not the others. So one can say anything they want and even believe it.. but when one actually has to face death.. Reality when it comes to dying and facing the Maker, knowing that next you will reap what you sow, i see firsthand many many people begging to stay alive at all costs..
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Face it the single biggest cause of depression basically is your own doings and not just a bad marriage.. But don’t expect any marriage to make you happier over having a personal relationship with God still or the new or old marriage to be a false substitute for having a personal relationship with God. I have been recently counseling a person who desperately wants to be remarried, she has been twice married, but she is not interesting in following after God only after her own desires, lusts.. so no marriage for her will make her happy or replace God’s vacuum in her life still too. God has not promised you now even a right of remarriage.. but he promised you peace, joy and happiness and yes you can have that outside of marriage with Jesus..
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Eccl 7:13 KJV) Consider the work of God: for who can make that straight, which he hath made crooked? 14 In the day of prosperity be joyful, but in the day of adversity consider: God also hath set the one over against the other, to the end that man should find nothing after him. 15 All things have I seen in the days of my vanity: there is a just man that perisheth in his righteousness, and there is a wicked man that prolongeth his life in his wickedness. 16 Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself? 17 Be not over much wicked, neither be thou foolish: why shouldest thou die before thy time? 18 It is good that thou shouldest take hold of this; yea, also from this withdraw not thine hand: for he that feareth God shall come forth of them all.
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see and read also
http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/control-freaks
http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2008/07/21/hidden-agendas/
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/21/the-pretender-imposter-wolf-in-sheep-clothing/
http://thenonconformer2.wordpress.com/2010/06/30/severely-troubled-persons/
http://www.socyberty.com/Advice/Are-You-a-Control-Freak.101788
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/24/wrongful-accusations/
http://thefocusonthefamily.wordpress.com/2008/07/03/verbal-abuse-is-always-unacceptable-too/
http://postedat.wordpress.com/2010/02/11/i-am-a-slave-to-no-man/
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